Bismih Ta’ala.

Respect is a very important requirement for a woman. How will a woman feel respected? When a man responds in a way to show importance to her rights, wishes and needs, she will feel truly respected. When a husband behaves in a way giving and showing importance to a wife’s thoughts and feelings, she is sure to feel respected.

Generally, a woman loves if the husband shows his feelings in a physical way, through flowers, remembering birthdays and anniversaries, and other festive occasions, according to his means, in the most affordable manner he is able to do these things even in a small way. Last week we talked about the two primary needs of love of a woman and this week the third primary need ‘respect’ is fulfilled in this manner.

Therefore, if a woman is respected it is easier for her to automatically fulfill the third love need of a man which is appreciation. A woman has to feel good and admit this fact whenever she receives anything from a man. By this a man will truly feel appreciated. Appreciation is a natural reaction when a person is being supported. When a man is appreciated, he knows that his efforts and hard work has not got wasted, and he will be encouraged to give more , and also respect his partner that much more.

One of the most important and valued thing for a woman is to feel that she is given priority by her husband. Sincere commitment to her feelings and needs will naturally make her feel that her husband is devoted to her. Any woman is bubbly and feels on top of the world when she is adored and made special.

When a woman feels that she is number one on his agenda of life, she will begin to naturally admire him quite easily. Just as a woman needs to feel a man’s devotion, a man has a primary need to feel a woman’s admiration. Therefore, for woman ‘devotion’ and for a man ‘admiration’ are the fourth primary needs of love.

A man feels admired when a woman is happily amazed by his unique characteristics or talents, which can be described as his honesty, romance, kindness, understanding, humor, strength, and any other old fashioned virtue or goodness. When a man feels admired he will devote himself full to support his spouse and admire her.

Those who are in the twilight of their married lives should not think that they have missed out on these important factors of love life. As long as they are still young at heart, they can try testing these and see the fruits of reward.

(To be continued, Insha Allah)