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PARENTING
Parenting is a divine gift and an extremely wonderful experience if perpetuated properly.
The life of every child depends of how the parents nurture them. Positive parenting will bring about the required positivity in the child which will be a lasting effect and alternatively the same goes for negative parenting. Most parents ignore the fact that their children will be traumatized due to the unhealthy and unacceptable behavior of parents. Fighting and arguments in from of children will cause them to develop fear and trauma all life.
All humans have multitudes of issues. However, all these desires, ego, emotions and illogical behavior must be curtailed if parents have even an iota of love for the wellbeing of the children. Many issues that I handled in the recent past (of teenaged children) are due to these facts.
When the father and mother do not see eye to eye, and with the passage of time, they will both find pleasure from elsewhere. This is a very dangerous trend which may lead to suicidal thoughts and or self harm if children observe these patterns of corrupt behavior. As such, parents must let go of all their desires for the sake and well being of their children. If not their children will silently suffer.
POSITIVE PARENTING

From reading to infants to helping with schoolwork to enunciating values as the child grows, parents exert enormous influence over their children's development, success, and overall happiness. They are, however, not the only influences—especially after children enter school and begin interacting with the world at large.

It's especially important that parents work to give children the best start possible, but it's also important for parents to recognize that kids come into the world with their own temperaments, personalities, and goals. Ultimately, while parents may want to push their child down a certain path, a parents' job is to provide an interface with the world that eventually prepares a child for complete independence and the ability to pursue whatever path they choose.

In a rapidly changing world—especially one where children's milestones and accomplishments are often shared on social media—parenting seems subject to fads and changing styles, and parenting in some ways has become a competitive sport. But the needs of child development as delineated by science remain relatively stable: safety, structure, support, and love.

How to Parent Successfully

To parent effectively, it’s not enough to simply avoid the obvious dangers like abuse, neglect, or overindulgence. Indeed, The National Academy of Sciences delineates four major responsibilities for parents: maintaining children's health and safety, promoting their emotional well-being, instilling social skills, and preparing children intellectually.

Numerous studies suggest that the best-adjusted children are reared by parents who find a way to combine warmth and sensitivity with clear behavioral expectations. Parents may find the Four C’s to be a helpful acronym: care (showing acceptance and affection), consistency (maintaining a stable environment), choices (allowing the child to develop autonomy), and consequences (applying repercussions of choices, whether positive or negative).

What Are Unhealthy Parenting Styles?

Not every parenting style is in the child's best interest. There is such a thing as overparenting, which can cripple children as they move into adulthood and render them unable to cope with the merest setbacks.

Two well-known examples of overparenting styles include "helicopter parenting," in which children are excessively monitored and kept out of harm's way, and "snowplow parenting," in which potential obstacles are removed from a child's path. Both can negatively impact a child's later independence, mental health, and self-esteem.

Of course, there is such a thing as too-little parenting, too, and research establishes that lack of parental engagement often leads to poor behavioral outcomes in children. This may be, in part, because it encourages the young to be too reliant on peer culture. Ironically, overly harsh or authoritarian styles of parenting can have the same effect.

Ultimately, parents should strive to be loving but firm, while allowing children enough space to develop their own interests, explore independence, and experience failure.
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