A person goes for counselling because he is struck or lost. He may feel this way or it may be evident in behavior, but in any case that is the problem.
When a person comes for counselling, the normal issue among all problems is that his behavior, feelings, thoughts, and perceptions seem irrational. He cannot understand why he feels so angry, so depressed, so obsessed with unimportance, so afraid of nothing. He may say he is worthless, he may believe he is hated, he may think no one could ever care for him, or respect him, he may be convinced that others are making his life miserable.
Such people have lost track of something in themselves that is now driving their apparently irrational behavior, feelings, and point of view. They may know they are unhappy, usually they are more than smart enough to understand that their behavior is not working for them anymore, but for some reason they cannot change. There is some other motivation, agenda for feeling that draws them into these repeated patterns. If they could see what it was, they may be able to resist the impulse or to choose another means of satisfying it. Instead, they have lost themselves and they are struck in unproductive, unsatisfying, even self-destructive patterns of feelings and behavior.
Quite often they are lost with regard to identifying what hurts.
There is another strange angle to look at it. Some people get struck in a situation partly because, believe it or not, it is less painful to feel that way than to face what really hurts. Most people are scared to look within themselves for fear of confronting painful issues and they live in denial. These habits develop outside of our awareness where we cannot get them. This is where the counsellor/ therapist will help you unravel issues which are in your unconsciousness. Because it is in the unconsciousness that the key to understanding the problem lies.
Marriage is the initial legal bond to start a family. Thereafter, children appear on the scene to make it a complete family.
Presently, in most families the euphoria and happiness that comes with the beginning of marriage life fades away after some time. Miscommunication and misconceptions are the main reasons for this very sad situation. The Qadhi Court is filled with TALAQ cases and is piling up by the minute. This was not the situation many years ago. What could then be the reason?
Certain responsible organizations are conducting workshops and seminars towards a happy family model. This is indeed encouraging. However, could one or two workshops change the course of our life or life-style?
Everyone in the family must understand that each one of them is not the same. How they perceive the world and things happening around them may not necessarily be the same. Although, at the first phase of marriage, the husband and wife begins to live together, their habits, behavior, culture, values and beliefs, etc are not the same. Therefore, when one person’s line of thinking does not match or go well with the other, problems begin to surface. This principal applies even to every child. This is how Allah has Created us. This must be remembered well.
Our Counselling Centre doors are open for those who want individual, couple or family counselling in a very cordial and confidential environment.
Family Therapy looks at the individual in the context of their relationships and social setting rather than in isolation.
Systemic Family Therapy is a means of intervention that attempts to understand and address human beings’ pain and distress within the context in which it occurs i.e. the family or relationship environment.
This therapeutic approach does not isolate an individual patient, but rather it takes account of the family as an organic whole, whatever form that family group might take.
Clients are facilitated to make sense of their lives and difficulties in the context of their family formation and functioning.
Family therapy aims to enhance communication between family members and to cultivate the independence of the individual within the family. It avoids apportioning blame.
The primary focus is on the present rather than the past and the objective is to promote action towards change so that the distress of the family can be alleviated.
Family therapy may involve entire families with parents and their young or adult children. It may involve some members of a family or couples.
This form of psychotherapy understands that emotional, psychological and interpersonal problems arise within the context of how people experience their life – how they make sense of reality and in their patterns of social engagement and exchange.
The therapist and client together seek to understand both how these patterns arise and how they are maintained; they do this through discussion, reflection and exploration in session and between sessions.