In the last lesson we discussed how a man feels offended when a woman offers unsolicited advice or tries to help him.
Likewise, a man should understand how a woman is different. Men should remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.
Many times a woman just wants to share her feelings about her day, and her husband, thinking that he is helping interrupts her by offering a steady flow of solutions to her problems. On the other hand a woman never offers solutions when someone is talking.
A sure way of honouring a wife is to listen patiently with empathy, seeking truly to understand her feelings. Putting your hands on her shoulder or touching her hands can truly be a great solace to her. Therefore, the basic rule for love to grow is for men to listen empathically and for women not to offer unsolicited advice or criticism.
I am not saying that the above two qualities are completely wrong. The mistakes are only in timing and approach. When a man feels that a woman is not trying to improve him, he is more likely to ask for her feedback and advice. Understanding these differences makes life easier to respect our partner’s sensitiveness and be more supportive. Moreover, when our partner resists us it is probably because we have made a mistake in our timing and approach. Make sure that each and every word that you utter is carefully constructed not to hurt each other. I suggest that for the next few days you start practicing the above and to see the amazing results yourself.
Generally, it is difficult for a change to take place immediately, but, with sincere effort and Duas, nothing is impossible. For, the main objective of marriage is to live a life of happiness and contentment.